A Guide on Gay Threesome

  

Before there was 'swing partner' (temporary switching of partners) then there was 'two way' (having a fixed couple for swapping); now, there is 'threesome' (not to be confused with orgy). Most gay men prefer having a thrilling sexual activity, from using toys to whipping to different positions, but at present, having two male individuals for sexual intercourse at the same time is becoming more and more popular. It is more about experimenting, extra fun, and having double the satisfaction. But before jumping into this activity, people need to know that there are some non-verbalized rules and regulations to avoid sticky situations (Wow, that rhymes!). This activity can become very disastrous if people just start hitting on and inviting other persons they are attracted to a threesome without the proper knowledge and understanding.

There are basic courtesy on gay threesome. First, do not just say "Hey! Do you want to have a threesome with me and my buddy?". This type of intercourse may be just for fun or may not be as romantic as a candle lit lovey dovey, but it is not a joke to be messed with. Start by engaging the man with sexy ideas and flirt with him more. Make him comfortable and prepare him for the exciting night. Let him realize that he will not be vulnerable nor get hurt. Let the newly found 'friend' get well acquainted with your buddy, for both of them will be part of the action.

Second, know the signals. When a guy is invited to this act and he seems uncomfortable with the situation, either inspire him a bit more or move on to another. Not all are interested in engaging in this kind of activity. Remember that encouraging and pushing are two very different statements. And if the person keeps smiling, makes naughty eye contacts, and flirts with you and your buddy, then that is a good go signal.

Third, when the three involved men are all 'in', set up your own specific set of policy that every one will agree on. For instance, "no hitting on the face" or "all must actively participate". The party may also designate roles. Having a 'bottom', 'top', and a 'versatile' is the perfect combination, because there wouldn't be any conflict on deciding what job one must play.

Fourth, be as giving as possible. Do not over indulge on one's self. One must understand that threesome is not having two men performing on one man. The three must have the mentality that this is "one man trying to satisfy two men". Although, it might not be impossible for the two to be more intimate on each other leaving the other one a bit out of place, the latter must then exert more effort by either kissing, touching, or caressing. All must have almost the same quality and quantity.

Lastly, all must be safe. Condoms are very important. Have fun with protection and make the most out of it. Do not, by any chance, involve in a gay threesome without protection. Keep in mind that it's better to be safe than sorry. Start that engine up and find that third wheel.

Xoxo,
Rainbow Love Boy

Romeo and Romeo

Queer love? Man to man? Same sexer? "Partner"? However you may call it, it's still a relationship, right? A good ol' mature gay relationship. And you do know that when you get involved in gay relationships, you need to exert double the effort, right? Please say you do, honey.

So, how do you make things work out in a pink relationship? Well, in layman's term, it's a combination of "I don't give a f*ck" and "I want to make my partner happy".

I'm no expert on gay love or relationship, (I did have trouble with my boyfriend: jealousy, stupid fights, name it all) but hey, the things written here are pretty basic in any relationship.

Repeat after me: "Double the effort, double the effort."

Here goes a grocery of love list:

"I love you" - Ah, three little words but when put together can be very strong but often thrown out there like it's a piece of tissue. Mark (a friend of mine) says "I love you" to his boyfriend EVERY SINGLE TIME. "I love you" in the car, "I love you" in texting/sexting, "I love you" before putting the phone down, "I love you" in the morning, "I love you" and goodnight, "I love you" "I love you" "I love you". It's become a routine and the meaning fades away. Baby girls, avoid over using this sentence. Wouldn't it be nice to hear this by surprise? Or wouldn't be sweeter if you say it to him and you really mean it, not just because you have to but because you want to.

Honesty - So you went to a bath house without your partner and you're thinking "Should I tell him or not??". Just go ahead and tell him. You know how it goes within our community, your partner WILL find out eventually. Better to hear it from you (and have an I'm-sorry-it-won't-happen-again hot lovin) than have the issue circulating around until it finally reaches him. BAM!! The fight is on. Plates will be thrown, PlanetRomeo accounts will be hacked, gym memberships will be cancelled, and worst, Poochie the cat will have two separate homes. To be honest or not be? 

Respect - He likes Taylor Swift, you like Andrea Bocelli. He likes summer, you like winter. He's into S&M, you're not. You're totally head over heels with Abercrombie & Fitch, he finds it cliche. What do you do then? C-O-M-P-R-O-M-I-S-E. Give him what he wants and in return he should at least have the decency to let you have what you want, too. If both of you are into different genres of music or movie, why not have a 3-day-his-genre, 3-day-your-genre, and a day off from all. If you're not into summer but he is, have activities with him that would also benefit you like tanning or going to exotic places. And in the winter time, set up that cabin with the romantic fire place for him. S&M tickles him and you are not quite there yet, why not start with soft leather first, who knows? You just might like it, too. Or begin having some other intimate experiments with him, like an erotic massage, feathers are good. You appreciate a certain brand of clothing and he thinks it's too 'gay', in that case, he might be straight!!

Passion – According to the dictionary, passion is a strong and barely controllable emotion. Now, do not go literally. It’s as simple as, you have got to love what you are doing, or who you are doing (jk). Both of you decided to engage in a commitment so you should be ready to truly commit (which will be an entire new entry). You have got to have the need to breathe the same air that your partner is breathing. You will be spending a lot of time together so try making the most out of it.

As said earlier, having a rainbow relationship takes more effort in making it work. We have to admit that our society still is in the closet. You will be bashed, thought badly of, mocked, and both you and your partner will go through a lot of obstacles. And all you actually got to do is have faith in each other and in your love.

Xoxo,

Rainbow Love Boy